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Funeral Guide

Grieving the Death of a Parent

Losing a parent is an extremely painful thing for anyone to process. It is such a personal event, and, ultimately, there is no right or wrong way to grieve for your loss. 

Allen Funeral Service is vastly experienced in supporting families with compassion and care during these difficult times. If you find yourself in the heartbreaking position of experiencing your own period of mourning for a parent, we’ve gathered some advice that may be able to provide comfort during this difficult time. 

Healing is a Journey 

While everyone experiences the process of moving through grief to a state of healing differently, experts consider there to be five stages of grief: 

  1. Shock 
  2. Anger 
  3. Sadness 
  4. Guilt 
  5. Acceptance 

It is also thought that you can move back and forth between these stages throughout your mourning period. It’s important to realise that having these feelings is completely natural and healthy. For more information and ideas on how you can navigate the stages of grief, and what they may feel like, take a look at our Grief and Healing blog post. 

Help is at Hand 

One of the most important things to remember is that you are not alone. There are so many channels that offer compassionate advice, so never be afraid to reach out and ask for help if you need it. Some potential avenues to explore when it comes to support are: 

Friends and Family 

Simply sharing your feelings with people who understand can be a truly cathartic experience.

Cruse Bereavement Support 

The UK’s leading bereavement charity has lots of expert advice and information to help you through this painful time. 

The Samaritans 

Providing anonymous listening and support, The Samaritans could help those who find it difficult talking to family and friends. 

Take a Moment to Reflect 

Some people find it useful to revisit old memories that they made with their parent. This could be flicking through old photographs, listening to their favourite music, or even reading their favourite book to feel a connection with them. 

These memories could also help inspire your loved one’s funeral plans, if you’re in the process of making decisions. Take a look at our arranging a funeral section for more ideas on things to consider. 

Plan the Perfect Send Off 

Organising a funeral for your parent can help you on your healing journey, allowing you to take comfort in the closure the service itself can offer. Making sure the day is exactly what they would have wanted can be a major motivator and help you express your grief in a healthy way that celebrates the life of the deceased. 

Choosing the right Funeral Director can also help you do this. T. Allen offers comforting, expert support, treating you with professional compassion throughout this difficult time. Our Funeral Directors and the Grief Journey section provides more information on how we can make your parent’s funeral a fitting celebration of their life. 

While grieving the death of a parent is a difficult thing for anyone to go through, there are many channels available to help you navigate this painful time. Whether you need some advice, or simply don’t know where to get started, T. Allen Funeral Service can help you through all the details of arranging a funeral service in Kent. Get in touch with T. Allen Funeral Service today.